• Posts by Celia McBride

    Be a Child

    • March 30, 2010 8:55 am

    Dearest Readers,

    This morning, during meditation practice, I visualized the idea of living until I was 130 years old. For a gal who once thought she wouldn’t make it past 17, this is rather amusing.

    The image came to me as a way of seeing myself still in the early stages of my spiritual evolution. I needed to do this because yesterday I put my foot in my mouth and am feeling the painful effects of having done so. Imagining that I am only 30-something years into my actual human journey gave me great reassurance.

    To put one’s foot in one’s mouth means (according WikiAnswers) “you said something you shouldn’t have said in a certain situation.” Yup. That pretty much sums it up.

    Actually, I sort of think what I said was okay but how I said it was not. I could have been kinder. I could have been more compassionate. So I feel bad. I feel remorseful. I feel imperfect.

    For a recovering perfectionist feeling imperfect is the perfect growth opportunity. It feels like crap but its exactly what we need to do. Not perfect yet, Celia. Never will be. Enjoy!

    Transitioning from crap to enjoyment is a tricky business. This is really where the need was coming from to project almost 90 years into the future on the cushion. It was a way of accepting that I still have a great deal of work to do and that it’s okay. I’m just at the beginning!

    Inspiring Message of the Day: Sometimes it’s tempting to think I’ve learned everything I need to know. But how arrogant is that? Today I will open myself up to the idea that I am still a teachable child with a long road of learning ahead of me.

    Mystic Calling

    • March 29, 2010 9:24 am

    Dearest Readers,

    Yesterday I got a call from an acquaintance who had heard me speak on several occasions about the mystical path and my belief in the Power of Unconditional Love that is Back of All Things. He wasn’t quite sure why he was calling but I have a feeling he knew after we hung up.

    What is the mystical path?

    The dictionary on this computer describes “mysticism” in this way: “belief that union with or absorption into the Deity or the absolute, or the spiritual apprehension of knowledge inaccessible to the intellect, may be attained through contemplation and self-surrender.”

    So the mystic uses prayer and meditation to align herself with Higher Guidance thereby achieving a spiritual understanding of the way things are that is beyond the intellect.

    The mystical path is available to anyone who seeks it. One does not have to be special or chosen. One simply has to say, “I’m willing,” and then begin to do the work.

    And why would one choose to become willing to walk on the mystical path? Because it’s fun! It’s an adventure. And because without a spiritual understanding of the way things are, life can be a slog, it can be painful and it can be very dark.

    I find that seeing things through a spiritual lens takes the slog right out of the experience of being. All of the horror, all of the injustice, all of the pain can be viewed from an entirely different perspective, which makes things not only easier to grasp (bear), but even exciting and, yes, fun.

    People with faith in the Unseen have been accused of using their beliefs to explain away the bad things of this world. That faith is, in fact, a kind of denial. I couldn’t disagree more strongly. I have been guided to faith. I said “I’m willing” and I began to receive Guidance. This tells me that the Path is not of my making.

    Marianne Williamson says that a miracle is “a shift in perception”. What that means is this: if I can shift my way of seeing, indeed, my way of being, from the intellectual to the spiritual, amazing things will happen.

    Amazing things like phone calls from people who are working through that shift, which is not easy, BTW, and who need a little support along the way. And lemme tellya, my spiritual understanding of that phone call is that it was not just a phone call. It was nothing less than Higher Love calling me up on the phone to say hello.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: What would things look like if I viewed them with a spiritual understanding? How would it change my life? Today I will look at what is happening in my life through a spiritual lens and ask for Higher Guidance to show me my True Path.

    Seatbelts!

    • March 27, 2010 10:39 am

    Dearest Readers,

    It is a beautiful, sunny Saturday with spring-like temperatures outside. I am young, healthy, talented and prosperous. I have a lovely home and a full, abundant life. So why am I full of anxiety?

    Because I am in the process of working on fulfilling one of my dreams, which is to make a feature film, and it’s triggering fear. Because I’m about to go traveling for 10 days and it’s triggering fear.

    If there’s anything I’ve learned on the healing path, it’s that no matter how far I’ve come, no matter how much progress I’ve made, the fear will still get triggered when I take any kind of action that requires me to surrender control and take risks.

    So what is the point, you ask? If you do all this work and the fear still comes up, what is the f’n point?

    Well, the point is this: the fear may come up but it doesn’t have to take charge. It doesn’t have to control the situation. It doesn’t have to make the decisions. It can quite simply come up.

    Then the work begins. No one said fulfilling your dreams was going to be easy. Life is not a wishing well. I gotta do the footwork. I have to take the action steps necessary to manifest the vision. And when I do this all my Old BS will come to the surface to stop me.

    That’s when things get uncomfortable. And that is when we tend to give up, avoid, procrastinate, abandon ship and bail. But today, I refuse to bail and so I must learn to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.

    I heard that little gem this morning on an inspiring phone call. Boy, does that hit home! If I can stay with the discomfort, knowing that it’s coming up because my Old Belief Systems are being challenged, then I can learn to observe, relax and let go.

    So I’m feeling uncomfortable but I don’t run for the hills. Instead, I do what needs to be done to move forward.

    First, I name it. Check. Next, I share it with someone else. Check. Then I might say a prayer or do a positive affirmation to help me relax. Check. Finally, I do the next right action.

    The next right action might be footwork around the vision or goal or it might be resting or it might be something else. I can find out by getting quiet and going within or calling a friend and talking it through. But no matter what, I do not have to let the fear win.

    Those of you who are regular readers already know that one of my visions is to live fearlessly. Does this mean there will be a day when I never have to experience fear again? That would be good. Until then, when the fear comes up I do what’s necessary to overcome it.

    Inspiring Message of Day: Today I will take action toward fulfilling my dreams and when the fear arises I will practice getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.

    The Atonement

    • March 26, 2010 9:34 am

    Dearest Readers,

    Do you have a favourite movie? I have several but if I had to narrow it down to one right now I’d have to say Atonement. I’ve probably seen it 10 times and could easily see it ten more.

    Yesterday, after a full day of doing the hardest thing first I was exhausted and in need of a break. So I watched my favourite movie.

    As you may know, the film, based on a novel of the same name written by Ian McEwan, is about a young girl who separates her sister and her sister’s lover forever when she names him for a crime he didn’t commit. She atones for her “sin” by writing a novel that gives them a life of happiness together.

    It’s devastating. And devastatingly good.

    The dictionary on this computer defines “atonement” as “reparation for a wrong or injury; reparation or expiation for sin (religion).” In Christian Theology the Atonement is “the reconciliation of God and humankind through Jesus Christ.”

    As a teenager, I was a thief. I stole merchandise from stores and money from employers, family and friends. It’s not easy for me to admit this to you but I am able do so freely today because I am no longer ashamed.

    I have found freedom from that shame by atoning for my wrongs. I have admitted my thievery to those that I robbed and I’ve paid each and every one of them back.

    Making those amends was terrifying and sick-making but once done, I was free. One of the most amazing things about getting honest with people on this level is their reaction. One thinks they will chastise and judge, cast stones even. My experience has been just the opposite.

    Here is an excerpt of a letter from the manager of a store where I stole a bunch of stuff in my youth. He wrote to me after receiving the money I owed him, included with my own letter of amends:

    “I am glad that you are able to come to terms with some of the things in your past. I have posted your letter on my staff bulletin board and I believe that you will be an inspiration to my staff. It is never easy to admit and rectify any wrongdoings but I do firmly believe that it does cleanse the soul.

    I have decided to make a donation to a charity on your behalf so your monies will be going to a great cause.

    I wish you well in your journeys and if you are ever back in the city, please don’t hesitate to drop by.”

    Does that not blow your mind?

    Maybe Atonement is my favourite movie because I can relate to the character of the girl, who lives with her guilt until she can’t anymore and then tries to make it right as best she can. Maybe it’s because it’s just a damn fine film. Either way, it cleanses my soul each time I see it.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: We can find freedom from shame through atonement. It’s a way out of the darkness of the past to the light of the present. To freedom and hope and joy.

    Hardest Thing First

    • March 25, 2010 8:56 am

    Dearest Readers,

    Thanks again to the friend who passed me the tool of “Do the Hardest Thing First” because it’s helping friends and clients and has totally changed the way I operate.

    In the past, I would always save the hardest thing until last and then be in a severely compromised position to get it done, which often meant I was needlessly orchestrating my own burn-out.

    Each day, I now look at the to-do list and ask myself, “What is the hardest thing?” Once I know the answer I experience the feelings of dread and fear, probably say a prayer to help set them aside, and take action. It’s a revelatory experience!

    There are other benefits. Yesterday I completed 2 tasks, which I managed to do only because I’d already begun to do the work at an earlier date. I was able to achieve the goal(s) because I’d broken the hardest work down into stages.

    By tackling some of the work when it was the hardest thing, leaving it for a few days and then going back to it, I lightened my work load and finished before the deadline.

    There was a time when I would work all day and night before a deadline and then I’d spend the next couple of days crashing, cursing that I needed a day off and couldn’t take one because there was more work on my plate!

    So what’s that all about?

    Well, I think not wanting to do the hardest thing first is about fear of success. And fear of success is really about fear of the unknown and fear of failure.

    Leaving things until the last minute and then crashing and burning is about low self-esteem. Somewhere deep inside I think I deserve this level of treatment, which is pretty poor if you think about it.

    So real change comes from digging out these Old BS’s (Old Belief Systems) and replacing them with new ones. I need to become willing to let go of the fear and start practicing the behaviour that scares the crap out of me.

    The rewards are plenty. More time to play, to rest, to actually enjoy this life. What a concept.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: What task am I avoiding, telling myself I’ll get to it later? I will tackle it now, saving myself time and effort down the road and opening the door to feeling successful.

    Coaching Success

    • March 24, 2010 10:09 am

    Dearest Readers,

    Yesterday, after a session with the Business Coach with whom I’ve been working for the last couple of years, I wrote the following “something” on Facebook:

    “Celia McBride thinks everyone should have their own coach.”

    Grammatical violations aside (should be “her/his own coach” in case you didn’t catch it), the statement is absolutely true. Coaches are a marvel.

    As an Inspiring Coach, I get to witness the growth and progress of clients that I work with, which is a major inspiration in itself. I get emails saying, “I did it!” or “I’m doing it!” and my heart fills with joy. As a client, I get to experience my own progress first hand.

    One of the things I love about coaching sessions is that they often start with a review of what the client would like to celebrate. What are the victories or “wins” since the last session? It’s a super way to build confidence and if you could measure self-esteem with a thermometer the mercury would shoot right to the top.

    So as I described my wins with my coach yesterday I got to hear myself say how much progress I’ve made and how far I’ve come as a businesswoman since we started working together. Things I could never even have imagined a year and a half ago are now the reality of my existence. Pretty awesome.

    To give you an example, one of the things I first started to work on with my coach was increasing my income. I vividly remember having heart palpitations as we talked about specific numbers. The fear of success and the Old BS that being poor meant I was more spiritual made the process of visioning more money incredibly nerve-wracking for me.

    Since that session I have increased my income by 50%. This amazing fact has afforded me certain luxuries both practical and necessary for my business and also for my own self-care. It didn’t come from wishing it came from work. But I sure didn’t do it alone.

    So here is to Coaches of all kinds! And if you don’t have one, consider it. It will change your life for the better.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: Change takes effort. But help is available. Today I will seek the help I need to achieve the goals I have.

    Love is Law

    • March 23, 2010 10:07 am

    Dearest Readers,

    So Obama’s health-care bill has become law and some people are not happy about it. CBC Radio played a clip of Rush Limbaugh, the Republican radio host, saying, “We have get those bastards. We have wipe them out.”

    Now, presumably he was speaking about the United States Senate elections, taking place in November of this year, but considering the fact that US President Kennedy was assassinated for his radical policy-making, Limbaugh’s words are more than just a wee bit scary.

    A fellow artist posted this statement on Facebook this morning: “I don’t understand why anyone would NOT want their countrymen to have health-care.” Well, I don’t understand how people can talk about wiping other people out with such non-chalance. The hatred is so disturbing.

    The next story on CBC News described the fatal stabbing of 8 elementary school children by a mentally-ill former doctor. At this point I turned off the radio.

    Last week I blogged about the story I was going to tell for World Storytelling Day, which I ended up calling “God Lives in Edmonton.” The piece describes the spiritual awakening I had while living in desperate circumstances in that fair city.

    Through a series of very dark and painful episodes that led me to a radical experience of Higher Love, I came to believe that good comes from bad. Not wishful thinking, not Pollyanna-like white-washing of pain but direct experience of Love borne from hate.

    When I listen to frightening men like Limbaugh who are so full of that hate or hear about a man so sick he slaughters 8 little children on their way to school, I admit that the temptation to crawl under the covers and never come out is mighty. The world is too crazy. It’s out of control.

    But then I remember Love. And I remember that Good comes from bad. And I remember that I know this not because of blind faith but from direct and personal experience of Love as the only Truth. And I can feel the grief and I can respond with compassion and I can offer that Love to every single person I meet, including the hateful and the sick.

    We must fight the hatred with Love. It is the only Way.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: “It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle, how great the mistake; a sufficient realization of Love will dissolve it all.” ~ Emmet Fox

    Mirror Mirror

    • March 22, 2010 9:32 am

    Dearest Readers,

    Well, I got through the weekend activities, which included pitching a feature film project to a number of industry big-wigs and telling a story for the Yukon International Storytelling Festival. Now comes the follow-up: giving myself a pat on the back.

    This is something I am always encouraging others to do, both friends and clients alike, to actually reach up and physically pat our own back while saying, “You did a really good job. Good for you!”

    I’m writing about this now because I haven’t done it yet. As we all know, doing things for ourselves is much, much more difficult.

    It’s so much easier to look at what I didn’t do rather than what I did. “I skipped a whole chunk of the story,” or, “I was nervous and I didn’t say what I wanted to say to the producer guy.”

    Thank goodness I have made progress in this area. Those thoughts do still come up but I now refuse to give them focus. I refuse to give them any power.

    Years ago, I read about about something called mirror work, which involves looking at oneself in the mirror and saying loving, affirming things. It takes the pat on the back one step further.

    This kind of work makes a lot of people uncomfortable. It sounds corny, it feels corny, and, frankly, it is corny.

    But this kind of work is also extremely powerful. It cuts right to the core of that deep well of fear and self-loathing. It forces us to confront our own inner critic in the most direct way. It’s uncomfortable, I’ll admit it. And that’s why I do it.

    So, friends, here I go: “You did really well, Celia. Good for you! You did your best and your best is good enough!”

    Okay, the back is officially patted. Mirror, here I come.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: I will give myself a pat on the back for my accomplishments. I will go to the mirror and look myself in the eye and give myself a loving affirmation. We deserve it!

    Power Full

    • March 20, 2010 7:25 am

    Dearest Readers,

    As I’ve written before, this URL is called Cultivate Your Courage for a reason. That reason is simple: I have had to learn how to cultivate my own courage day after day after day to overcome deep-seeded fears and insecurities.

    To live fear-less is my greatest vision.

    And Life, (thank-you, Life) continues to present me with opportunities to walk through my fear day after day after day.

    Like today. I am privileged enough to be a part of a Film Forum here in Whitehorse that has brought together a handful of film producers and distributors from outside the Territory to meet those of us who are up-and-coming in the industry and hear our pitches.

    Last evening, we had a chance to mingle with the delegates and chat with them in an informal and relaxed session. A friend of mine and I were speaking after it was all over and giving ourselves credit for showing up at all. Both of us had had the same thought, “I don’t want to go.”

    Fear.

    This morning, we have the opportunity to pitch our projects to the panel and lemme tellya, if there is anything that can bring up the fear of failure and fear of success in a (wo)man, this is it.

    But something has changed in me. I’m not saying the fear is not poking at me like a little pin here and there, jabbing to get my attention. It is. But I am not sick with it. I’m not paralyzed or desperate. I’m okay. In fact, I’m good.

    This is because I am employing the tools I’ve picked up over the years to achieve my vision of being fear-less and they’re working.

    The one that is really bringing me a sense of calm is the “expect nothing” tool. Maybe these people can help me make my movie and maybe they can’t. Who knows? We’ll see. One thing I know is that if someone on that panel really wants to help me, it’s gonna happen.

    So how do I get that person to want to?

    I don’t.

    More tools I’m sharpening and polishing this morning: I can’t make anybody do anything and I can’t force outcomes.

    “I am already enough.”

    If I go in there determined to somehow make someone want to work with me, I’m doomed. If I go in there feeling like I need these people to make the movie, I’m doomed. None of them have the power to validate me or my work and if I give them that power, that’s right, all together now, “I’m doomed.”

    With or without them, the project I have is of value. With or without them, I have value.

    Might seem like a no-brainer to some of you who are perhaps more evolved than I am but for the gal who has sought validation from others for most of her natural born life and for a gal who has believed that someone else is going to discover her talents and make her successful, it’s a friggin’ miracle.

    Newsflash: that someone is me.

    Inspiring Message of the Day: The Power I have comes from a Higher Source. It doesn’t come from another human being. No one has the power to make me or break me unless I give away my power to that person. Today I will not give away my power. I will own my power by aligning my thoughts and actions with Higher Guidance.

    Gratitude and Gosh Almighty

    • March 19, 2010 10:09 am

    Dearest Readers,

    Thanks for being my virtual coach yesterday. Because of the commitment I made on the blog I managed to write the story I’m going to tell tomorrow night for World Storytelling Day. It took me all day but I did it!

    Now I just have to “learn” it.

    😉

    —

    Today’s Inspiring Message of the Day is totally unrelated to the above post but it is completely marvelous nonetheless and has filled my morning with wonder and awe, which are truly inspiring states of being:

    Did you know that a blue whale’s tongue is the size of an elephant?!